AITA for not making my DIL coffee and telling her I am not a barista

Edit: I sent this to my son and dil.

My son and dil ( Emily) are staying in our home probably for the next month due to water damage in there home. The company is fixing the damage but the flooring was damaged so it’s not very livable right now.

They have only been here less than a week and I am having an issue. I work nights I come back home around 6:30 am and then go to bed. My husband is usually up so I make him a coffee/breakfast before I turn in.

Just something like to do, more quality time before he heads to work. I asked my son and Emily if they would also like coffee or breakfast before they go to work.

They said no to food but yes to coffee. That was easy and I just made two extra cups. I asked them to tell me if they want me to change how to make their coffee. I thought they would just tell me, use this cream or if they had a preference on blend.

Emily texted me last night and said she left instructions for the coffee.

This morning I came home to very detail instructions how to make a complex coffee. It was like a Starbucks drink, she wanted foamed milk on top, different syrups, a specific coffee bean (ground fresh…) and a different brewing method ( we have a drip coffee machine) most of the stuff was one the counter.

I decided I wasn’t doing that and just made the normal coffee. Emily wasn’t happy and we got into a argument before she went to work

I basically told her I am not a Starbucks barrista and I am not going all that. She told me I shouldn’t have offered in the first place if I wouldn’t make the coffee to her liking. We left on a sour note.

I have been getting texts from my son about not being hospitable so I am having trouble sleeping at the moment

Should I just make the coffee

Comments

Wtf. If someone asks you how you like your coffee your options are milk/no milk, sugar/no sugar, strong/weak/middling and maybe can I have a big cup. And if the person making you coffee just finished a night shift? AND they are putting you up for free? NTA but they are so much so

Right that extra stuff is things I PAY for at a coffee shop. If I’m a guest I accept creamer/milk and thank the host. Send Emily’s instructions to your son, “here is Emily’s coffee order, your turn to try to make it” He prob has a different story

You’re way more nice than I am. For me, it’s here is the coffee, the sugar is in the cupboard and we have some milk in the fridge if you want some.

NTA. The social contract for asking someone how they like their coffee goes like this: black or milk? How much? Sugar or not? Maybe if you have different milk options. That is it. Your DIL should be embarrassed for asking you to make such a ridiculous drink.

Just make black coffee, and then they can add the milk, sugar, syrups as they like.

TL;DR

When your DIL orders a latte by the barista, just brew a regular pot and say, “Sorry, I’m not a latte‑artist.” The world (or at least the comments) will understand.