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AITA for Not Giving Individual Christmas Gifts to My Sister's Kids?

· 3 min read

A distant brother, a sibling with nine kids, and a holiday budget that makes Santa look broke.

The (Slightly Misunderstood) Post​

Picture this: a brother who’s never met half of his sister’s brood, a family that has somehow managed to squeeze 9 little humans into one house, and a Christmas wish list that would make a tech‑savvy toddler blush. He decides to keep the tradition alive by buying one big, expensive gift for the whole clan. Then his sister, who apparently discovered the “money is tight” mantra after buying a new car for the kids, asks him to split that gift into individual presents. The brother, feeling the pressure of a $1,000+ bill and the reality that he doesn’t celebrate Christmas, pulls the plug. The sister calls him a jerk, hangs up, and the family feud begins.

The Comments (Now With a Little Extra Spice)​

1. “NTA. It's not up to her to dictate what gift you give and what value. Maybe you should send her a box of condoms.”
Because nothing says “I’m not paying for your kids’ tech” like a surprise love‑gift.

2. “Funny and factual.”
Someone’s got the perfect one‑liner for the “I’m not a Santa Claus” meme.

3.
“NTA at all. Respectfully, they shouldn’t have had more kids than they can afford. Downvote me if you want, but 9 kids is way too much.”
“I understand wanting a big family, but if you can’t even afford a big family, then you’re just being selfish.”
“Your sister is severely entitled to money and gifts that’s not hers, and that she’s not even obligated to.”
“Especially, when you two aren’t even close and you haven’t met half of her children.”
“She sounds like the type that if you were to send those gifts, she’d definitely put her name on it, to make it seem like she bought the gifts, and take the credit.”
“Beggars can’t be choosers, and I wouldn’t blame you if you opt out of sending any gift at all.”
“Your sister sucks and she’s a major AH.”
“It’s absurd that she’s behaving so immaturely. Save your money for yourself, or for someone who isn’t being so rude and entitled.”
TL;DR: “Sister is a baby, you’re an adult. Stop the drama.”

4. “NTA. Having nine kids and complaining ‘money is tight’ and expecting a single person to pick up the slack is not it.”
Because apparently “pick up the slack” means “buy a MacBook for each child.”

5. “NTA. Asking for help is one thing. Requiring you to spend $100/kid for NINE KIDS is outrageous. Millions of kids would kill to open ANY gift on Christmas morning.”
Cue the “you’re on the wrong side of the budget” chorus.

TL;DR​

A brother, a sister with a tiny budget and giant expectations, a list that could fund a small tech company, and a family feud that could be the plot of a sitcom. Bottom line: if you’re not a billionaire Santa, it’s okay to say “no” (and maybe suggest a less expensive “everyone gets one” gift). The sister got a call from the universe that said, “You’re not the chosen one, buddy.”