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AITA for not sharing my half of my cruise credits with my girlfriend?

· 2 min read

Picture this: you’re on a cruise—the kind where the ocean is salty, the buffet is endless, and the only thing missing is a decent Wi‑Fi signal. You’re with your girlfriend, who’s been patiently waiting for the moment you’d finally pull out your wallet and say, “I’m paying for everything, boo.” Spoiler: you were right, but only up to the point where “everything” stopped being the ticket price and became the mandatory gratuities that cost about $110.

You’ve got a shiny Amex Platinum card that gives you $200 in annual perks, and a $150 cruise promo credit that magically turns into a $350 treasure chest. You decide to use that treasure chest to buy your girlfriend’s tip. You send the money, thinking she’ll be grateful for the extra generosity. But, oh boy, when she discovers the $350 hidden in your credit card’s back pocket, she goes from “oh, sweetie” to “hold on, you’re hiding this from me!”

Her demand? “I’m a couple; you owe me half of this credit.” Your retort: “I spent $700 a year for that card, so I’ll keep the extra.” The argument escalates into a full‑blown “relationship is transactional” showdown. You’re left wondering: are you the asshole? Or just the guy who’s secretly saving for a life raft?

TL;DR: You bought a cruise, got a $350 credit, and when your girlfriend found out you’re not sharing the extra, she freaked out. Turns out, the credit card perks are not meant to be split like pizza slices. Spoiler alert: you’re probably the asshole.

The comments are as follows:

  • “This relationship definitely sucks.”
  • “ESH – your relationship is transactional, so what do you expect?”
  • “Yeah, he’s paying for the cruise to make up for sometime he’d wronged her. Wronged her how? And how does a cruise make up for it?”
  • “Apparently it’s a large family cruise, and he didn’t even invite her at first. He invited his ex‑wife instead and lied about it. ‘I guess you can come and I’ll pay for it’ is the apology apparently.”
  • “Yta based on the fact you felt the type of credit card was important to the story but not how you wrong her and what you are making up for.”