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AITA for Telling My Wife It’s Disgusting That She Doesn’t Wash Her Hands After Pooping

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I was living my best “water‑free” life when our tap decided to take an unscheduled nap. The only water source left was my fancy RO system, which I used to wash my hands after a quick bathroom run. My wife followed suit, then promptly plopped herself on the couch and demanded I question her hand‑washing habits. “Why are you even asking?” she blurted, “I’m not going to use our only drinking water to wash my hands.”

Sure, that’s a reasonable objection. But the real kicker? She said she only cleans up when she actually has poop on her hands. “If I don’t get poop on my hands, I don’t wash them,” she claimed. I called that “disgusting” and “horrible hygiene practice.” She accused me of overreacting, called me an asshole, and now refuses to talk to me until I apologize. I’m still standing by my stance—apparently, “disgusting” is a valid accusation when a spouse’s hygiene routine is a “poop‑only” operation.

Reddit’s Verdict​

  • NTA. If you’re going to eat anything she cooks or bake again, make sure her hands are washed first.
  • Someone else wonders: How did you flush the toilet with no water?
  • Ew, that’s disgusting. Sorry, OP. NTA.
  • NTA – “That’s disgusting 😬”
  • “Fuck that shit, man.” Your wife is acting like my dad—or any dad, really.

TL;DR​

The wife says she only washes her hands when poop is involved. The husband calls this “disgusting.” The internet says he’s not the asshole, but you probably should start using hand sanitizer, even when the water’s on vacation.