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I have feelings for my coworker

· 2 min read

The Situation
I’m 26, I just started my dream job five months ago, and there’s this guy—one year older than me—who’s slowly turning my “no interest” status into a “who‑a‑saw‑my‑heart‑beat” one. We share jokes, he teases me (good, bad, and everything in between), and he’s the kind of guy who’ll pet my hair like a furry‑friendly barista and drape an arm over my shoulder while we head to lunch.

I’ve got more questions than a barista on a caffeine crash: Is he flirting? Is it office romance or just good vibes? I’m stuck in a limbo that’s part “I need a coffee date” and part “I need a therapist’s help.”

The Office Comedy of Uncertainty​

  1. The Teaser – He’ll poke fun at my snack choices. “You’re still eating that weird protein bar?”
  2. The Petting – He gently ruffles my hair while I’m hunched over spreadsheets.
  3. The Shoulder – He casually puts an arm around me on the way to lunch, and I’m suddenly an undercover body‑guard.
  4. The Confusion – I’m not sure if I should hire a therapist or just ask for a “coffee date” in the break room.

Bottom line: If you’re reading this, you’re probably wondering if it’s a romantic spark or just the office’s version of “I’m a nice person.”

TL;DR​

A 26‑year‑old office newbie is puzzled by a coworker’s gentle teasing, hair‑petting, and shoulder‑sheltering. She’s wondering if it’s romance or just a friendly colleague. Commenters: some think it’s a “cornball” situation, some suggest a casual coffee, and some warn that office romance can get awkward.

Comments​

  • Wow another one of these cornball posts
  • So good feelings or bad feelings?
  • I would invite him out to get a coffee or something similar that's casual and see how it goes.
  • I’ll think about it thanks
  • If you do end up dating in some sense definitely take it slow cuz if things go wrong it'll be awkward at work for sure.